In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, host Marisa Donnelly and guest Abe Lopez rewind back to episode three, and talk about what finding your person means. They ask these challenging questions: What defines a ‘person’ — loyalty, honesty, dependability, a combination of all three? Should your person be your romantic partner, a family member, close friend? Can they be someone who isn’t your romantic partner?

Both hosts talk about the qualities that define a ‘person’ and who these people are in their lives. Abe questions whether brutal honesty is positive or negative — meaning, is it better to approach people in your life with straightforwardness when they need it (even if it might hurt)? Or is it better to take into consideration who they are and what they need (not sugar-coating, but adapting as to not hurt their feelings)?

Marisa and Abe also discuss romantic relationships alongside finding your person. They ask whether the measure of a strong/healthy connection the ability to be one another’s best friends, or whether there should be a dividing line between what you share with a significant other/friend. They also question whether there’s such a thing as a ‘wrong person’ or whether everything is a lesson.

This podcast digs deep and shares a lot of the behind-the-scenes for each host’s personal relationships, thoughts, and values. They leave with a final, strong thought: Whoever your person is must be someone who is able to tell you the truth, not just what you want to hear.

find someone who will value you enough to tell you the truth