There is a difference between toxic and abusive relationships, and oftentimes that line is clearly drawn. However, when it comes to healthy vs. toxic, noticing and navigating these types of connections is often difficult, as they are more challenging to recognize. In this week’s VulnerABILITY Podcast, host Marisa Donnelly and guest Abe Lopez dive into difficult relationships, specifically tackling the topic of ‘should you stay or leave.’

episode 17, stay or leave

In traditional—read millennial—culture, oftentimes people are encouraged to walk away from anything that doesn’t feel right. People learn not to settle for less than they deserve (which, yes, is often a good thing). But on the opposite end of that, relationships start to fall apart as neither party wants to fight to make things work. In this week’s podcast, Marisa and Abe talk about this. They discuss how to determine whether a relationship is toxic (warning signs). They also talk about how to prioritize yourself enough to make sure that you’re not falling into something negative by accident.

When it comes to boundaries, Abe takes a strong stance, saying that there should be a line drawn in what people should tolerate in their relationships. Marisa argues that it’s not a ‘line’ but an acknowledgment of self-worth.

Once you know your self-worth, you are then less willing to compromise or lose parts of yourself to fix what’s ‘broken.’

The biggest takeaway? There is a difference between showing up for someone and being there through thick and thin, and letting yourself be trampled by toxic behavior.

In this episode, both Marisa and Abe share their experiences and shed light based upon their own past relationships. They also give thoughts on how to navigate these often painful moments in romantic relationships (and others). This episode is packed with emotion and even features Marisa’s dog, and a chorus of friends. 😂

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