“The pursuit is the purpose.” That’s the biggest takeaway from this week’s #VulnerABILITY Podcast, Episode 9, which pushes back against the idea that you have to “find yourself” or know who you are by a certain moment, age, or time period.

Struck by the frustration of today’s society and the constant search for identity, host Marisa Donnelly and guest Abe Lopez tackle the identity topic head-on, sharing their perspectives on whether you should try to find yourself and whether there is a set definition or time when you know you’ve truly ‘found yourself.’ They also discuss how to combat insecurity, fear, and debilitating self-talk when it comes to feeling lost within your own skin.

stop trying to find yourself

Instead of forever trying to find yourself, realize that who you are is always growing. You won’t be the same person you were yesterday or three months ago, and this is good.

At one point in the podcast, Abe even brings up the idea that you’ll never discover your true self—because if you do, then what’s the point of life?

Again, the pursuit is the purpose.

Covering everything from relationships to depression, growth, and acceptance of your ever-changing self, this week’s podcast will leave you both peaceful and inspired, knowing that you are forever growing and becoming different versions of yourself—and that is both freeing and powerful.