After a brief break from recording, host Marisa Donnelly jumps back in with a podcast on finding your true self. She talks about comparison and how that can keep you from doing the things you love and truly making a difference. She shares her personal insecurities about her podcast and how that held her back from recording. And she pushes back against the idea that there is a ‘right’ way or ‘perfect’ formula for being yourself.

“Have authenticity,” “Be your most authentic self.” We hear these messages in mainstream media, from the mouths of well-meaning coaches, and in all the self-help books we read. But what does it really mean to live with authenticity or find your truth? Especially in a world that’s telling you who to be and what to do?

Highlights From the Episode:

[2:40] “Who we are is different than the people around us. And [we have to learn] to step into our own identity instead of worrying about what everyone else is doing.”

[4:40] “There’s so much pressure put on us, as people, to have this certain way of living or doing things. So when we don’t measure up, or we don’t fit that business model/business mode, it leaves us with this unsettling feeling.”

[5:15] “To be honest, there is no model… There’s no perfect approach or means of getting there. It’s all about finding what you have to offer, getting excited about that, and putting that out into the world.”

[8:10] “Of course you’re going to find somebody better than you — it’s inevitable! …But the thing is, you’re not… made exactly like them.”

[8:30] “It’s not about how good you can be compared to somebody else, or how close you can be to the person next to you, or where you measure up in the grand scheme of artists and creators in the world. It matters what you have to offer. Because what you have to offer is unique and it’s yours.”

[9:00] “You have to find what makes you unique and you have to own that, and get excited about that, and pour your energy into that. Because at the end of the day, the world doesn’t need a million different copies. The world needs authentic people stepping up and sharing what they have to offer. Even if it’s not ‘the best’ in the world. Because it’s going to make a difference.”

[11:10] “You have to say [to yourself], ‘It doesn’t matter what other people are doing. It matters what I’m going to do and who I’m going to be.'”

[20:15] “Finding what makes you excited and stepping into that — that’s the authenticity, that’s the living purely, that’s the purpose.”

The Biggest Takeaway:

People will tell you that there’s a ‘foolproof way’ or a ‘best practice’ of doing something. Truthfully, though, there’s no ‘formula’ or ‘business model’ for building you. Authenticity is key.

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